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The husband betrays, and I live for the sake of the children, but I do not want to live. What to do?
What to do?
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If you ask what to do, then the desire not to live is not so great.
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answered 10 years ago
Today my employee returned from court with a decision to divorce! She has two children! Husband betrayed after 17 years of marriage. They opened the cognac, reassured her. After sympathetic wishes, her toast was: "Life goes on, I will definitely be happy, because I have CHILDREN! And I will find a couple for myself." Let this be your motto.
Dear Margarita Tinchy! Do not hang your nose, this is not the worst thing in life. (About 65% of marriages fail.) Live for your children. Smile no matter what. Everything that is done, everything is for the better!
Dear Margarita Tinchy! Do not hang your nose, this is not the worst thing in life. (About 65% of marriages fail.) Live for your children. Smile no matter what. Everything that is done, everything is for the better!
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answered 10 years ago
Perhaps the question and answers will be deleted (after all, this is a travel site, not a psychological support site) - but I could not help but answer if this is a cry from the heart.
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answered 10 years ago
what to do? enjoy and enjoy life! happiness to get rid of such shit, sorry, and rejoice that there are kids! everyone is alive and well.
there is life after divorce, and it is beautiful!!!
on vacation!!! new hairstyle, manicure/pedicure.
there is life after divorce, and it is beautiful!!!
on vacation!!! new hairstyle, manicure/pedicure.
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answered 10 years ago
With the onset of depression, the composition of the blood changes, followed by all the changes in the body.
you to the doctor.
Preferably see a psychotherapist.
Here you will be given advice that is suitable for healthy people, but you are already a little sick, if I understand the situation correctly.
you to the doctor.
Preferably see a psychotherapist.
Here you will be given advice that is suitable for healthy people, but you are already a little sick, if I understand the situation correctly.
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answered 10 years ago
If your husband left for another, then no one knows who is lucky. The trouble is that after some time, after taking a walk on the side, they return back to the family. And then you decide whether to accept it or not. And now I wish you patience, fortitude and all kinds of victories in your life! Everything will be fine!
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answered 10 years ago
Leave your husband, reconsider your views on "I live for the sake of children."
One must live for the joy of life, and children are only one of the components of this joy, far from being the only one. Sports, favorite work, a warm company of non-viscous friends, and, of course, travel, will invigorate any person and gradually relieve painful thoughts and feelings. Open your eyes - look how many interesting men are around who were not available to you because of your marriage! Diversify your sex life, get two lovers - a young one for a hot and fun pastime, and a mature one for care and warmth.
Z.Y. Tablets - as a last resort ... I am convinced that most problems can be solved without them.
One must live for the joy of life, and children are only one of the components of this joy, far from being the only one. Sports, favorite work, a warm company of non-viscous friends, and, of course, travel, will invigorate any person and gradually relieve painful thoughts and feelings. Open your eyes - look how many interesting men are around who were not available to you because of your marriage! Diversify your sex life, get two lovers - a young one for a hot and fun pastime, and a mature one for care and warmth.
Z.Y. Tablets - as a last resort ... I am convinced that most problems can be solved without them.
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answered 10 years ago
Margarita, what kind of nonsense are these?!!! You just need to LIVE and enjoy life! No matter what!!! Children are a MIRACLE! Let's meet with you tomorrow (virtually at least)? I live in Kyiv (and where are you?) And tomorrow my son will be 30 years old! Hurray! too! See you soon.
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answered 10 years ago
I completely agree with travelsita. You have children, this is the main thing in life. But two of my friends don’t have children. They have everything: husbands, money, work, cars and apartments. But ... So everything is not so your life is bad. Take care of yourself, look in the mirror and tell yourself that you are a beauty. How do you know what will happen tomorrow ... Good luck.
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answered 10 years ago
Do not lose faith in yourself and live not only for children, but also for yourself. It is clear that the established world has collapsed, but this is an occasion to reconsider their views on life, shake themselves up and live on. Change something in life and you were rightly advised to go somewhere, change the situation, just relax. There is no money to fly away, you can always find more economical options. If you can't change the problem, change your attitude towards it. Golden words that are 100% right. Tried a million times.
Believe in yourself and everything will be fine!
Believe in yourself and everything will be fine!
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answered 10 years ago
It all ends the same way.
First, a man changes a car, then an apartment, then his wife. Usually younger and more beautiful. Only now the point is that with a young and beautiful, he almost immediately has a heart attack. I know what I'm saying, there are many examples among my friends, both cool and not so.
After a heart attack (or stroke, or paralysis), the young and beautiful pretty quickly dumps to another such sucker, and he rolls on a gurney to his former, first wife, who feeds him with a spoon, and takes out a duck after him. Then she buries him, and not young and beautiful.
Now, if we all knew what would happen to us in advance ...
First, a man changes a car, then an apartment, then his wife. Usually younger and more beautiful. Only now the point is that with a young and beautiful, he almost immediately has a heart attack. I know what I'm saying, there are many examples among my friends, both cool and not so.
After a heart attack (or stroke, or paralysis), the young and beautiful pretty quickly dumps to another such sucker, and he rolls on a gurney to his former, first wife, who feeds him with a spoon, and takes out a duck after him. Then she buries him, and not young and beautiful.
Now, if we all knew what would happen to us in advance ...
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answered 10 years ago
Betrays? Fuck this bastard! Turn this page of life and start a new, clean and positive)) First of all, love yourself! Learn to find joy in everything, to see the positive in every minute of your life! You have a priceless gift - LIFE, you have a great joy, baby))) I think if you look, you can find a lot of positive moments!
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answered 10 years ago
In any family, both are always to blame, each to their own degree. A family is a house that is built together. When my friends sometimes grumble at their men over a cup of coffee, I always answer: have you done everything yourself in order to be interesting to yourself and your husband, have you done everything to make you want to return to your house? I agree with everyone here. Shake yourself up, look around, think, draw conclusions and only forward to the better. You will succeed, you must not only believe, but also do everything for this.
P.S. I especially liked Pachok's idea of two lovers))) Good luck!
P.S. I especially liked Pachok's idea of two lovers))) Good luck!
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answered 10 years ago
About two lovers - funny, but not smart.
It's like, since he's a pig and wallows in the mud, I wallow too - so that he would be offended.
Do not wallow in the mud, girls, you are much better and cleaner than you think and write about yourself!
It's like, since he's a pig and wallows in the mud, I wallow too - so that he would be offended.
Do not wallow in the mud, girls, you are much better and cleaner than you think and write about yourself!
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answered 10 years ago
Falling in love and sex is not dirt, it is happiness that gives strength and inspires. And stupid thoughts disappear from my head. This is what a woman needs for herself, and not "to make him feel offended" :)
Z.Y. By the way, the author did not write about what kind of betrayal in question. Maybe there is no treason at all, but, say, a deception with real estate, money, health ...
Z.Y. By the way, the author did not write about what kind of betrayal in question. Maybe there is no treason at all, but, say, a deception with real estate, money, health ...
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answered 10 years ago
"The young and beautiful pretty quickly dumps him to another such sucker, and he rolls on a gurney to his former, first wife, who feeds him with a spoon and takes out the duck after him. Then she buries him, and not young and beautiful. "
Yes, it usually does. Only it is necessary to clarify that a woman's life also goes downhill after such tricks. So, my opinion is that you should not wait until he returns, and then take out the ducks, but go about your life.
Yes, it usually does. Only it is necessary to clarify that a woman's life also goes downhill after such tricks. So, my opinion is that you should not wait until he returns, and then take out the ducks, but go about your life.
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answered 10 years ago
Of course, we do not know all the details, but of course, we need to change our attitude to LIFE here, and not to rush words - I don’t want to live.
What it is?
If it's about change, then
--Love and sex is not dirt, it is happiness that gives strength and inspires. And stupid thoughts disappear from my head.--
Is it cheating on the part of a man or a woman.?
And for some reason I'm sure that Olga - Love and sex - only for her husband, without a lover.
What it is?
If it's about change, then
--Love and sex is not dirt, it is happiness that gives strength and inspires. And stupid thoughts disappear from my head.--
Is it cheating on the part of a man or a woman.?
And for some reason I'm sure that Olga - Love and sex - only for her husband, without a lover.
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answered 10 years ago
sigur62, I also found this option funny, nothing more. That's what P.S. said.
I hope everyone somehow helped Margarita Tynchi, and she will find the strength and courage to get out of this situation, and make the right decision.
And Pachok - well done, I always read her answers with interest.
I hope everyone somehow helped Margarita Tynchi, and she will find the strength and courage to get out of this situation, and make the right decision.
And Pachok - well done, I always read her answers with interest.
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answered 10 years ago
"Isn't it cheating on the part of a man or a woman.?"
Yes, of course, treason... if the person is not free. If "he betrays" - it's time to become free!
I completely agree with elenako - you need to change your attitude to life! Focusing on any issue does not lead to anything good.
And the position "for the sake of children", in general, is very slippery. This concept justifies many things that have nothing to do with children. I live with an alcoholic - "for the sake of the children", I have not become anyone in my life - "for the sake of the children", I endure in the house a lustful goat who is cheating on me - of course! "for the sake of the children." Very comfortably. And then the children will grow up and ask "Mom, do you really think that we had to do this so that you would ruin your life? We would like you to be happy FOR THE SAKE OF THE CHILDREN":)
Z.Y. I would also like to hear both sides. Maybe a man toiled all his life, and then he met true love ... This also happens.
Yes, of course, treason... if the person is not free. If "he betrays" - it's time to become free!
I completely agree with elenako - you need to change your attitude to life! Focusing on any issue does not lead to anything good.
And the position "for the sake of children", in general, is very slippery. This concept justifies many things that have nothing to do with children. I live with an alcoholic - "for the sake of the children", I have not become anyone in my life - "for the sake of the children", I endure in the house a lustful goat who is cheating on me - of course! "for the sake of the children." Very comfortably. And then the children will grow up and ask "Mom, do you really think that we had to do this so that you would ruin your life? We would like you to be happy FOR THE SAKE OF THE CHILDREN":)
Z.Y. I would also like to hear both sides. Maybe a man toiled all his life, and then he met true love ... This also happens.
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answered 10 years ago
What else came to mind:
A few years ago, I was a regular participant in a repair and construction forum, where there is a section "about life". There was a rather warm company there, we all knew each other, we even sometimes met to drink coffee at the Reprise and talk about repairs and travel. There were also many anonymous people. One stood out from the general row by the fact that he liked to throw a deliberately flood or provocative topic. Like this one :) Over time, it turned out that a friend from all this chatter sculpted works for the university in sociology :) I don’t know how representative the sample was for these works.
This is what I mean - here the question is strange for a tourist forum, the author has not appeared again, the topic is, well, a classic stamp! In the best traditions of women's magazines...
A few years ago, I was a regular participant in a repair and construction forum, where there is a section "about life". There was a rather warm company there, we all knew each other, we even sometimes met to drink coffee at the Reprise and talk about repairs and travel. There were also many anonymous people. One stood out from the general row by the fact that he liked to throw a deliberately flood or provocative topic. Like this one :) Over time, it turned out that a friend from all this chatter sculpted works for the university in sociology :) I don’t know how representative the sample was for these works.
This is what I mean - here the question is strange for a tourist forum, the author has not appeared again, the topic is, well, a classic stamp! In the best traditions of women's magazines...
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answered 10 years ago
--the author didn't appear anymore, the topic is, well, a classic cliché! In the best traditions of women's magazines...---
Agree one hundred percent!
Agree one hundred percent!
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answered 10 years ago
The site is in a period of stagnation. Summer has passed, winter resorts have not yet reached high turnover. We need to bring people back online. But I was pleased with our bloggers. Not everything is lost in this country, if we are so keenly striving to help our neighbor. Thank you! Pleased! Glory to Ukraine!
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answered 10 years ago
I read it and smiled. I especially liked the ending: "Glory to Ukraine!".
votvam is right, the question was asked so that the users of the site do not relax and stretch their fingers on the keyboard ...
Sigur62, the statistics of heart attacks is not a thankful task. It is not known how many husbands died in the families, maybe they would have lived for themselves, the men with the young and beautiful would not grieve ... but they did not have time to leave. Situations are different.
Young wives are like a medicine in the house)) They give birth to cats for a therapeutic effect)))) Heart rhythms are restored at a time ... and not only rhythms))))
votvam is right, the question was asked so that the users of the site do not relax and stretch their fingers on the keyboard ...
Sigur62, the statistics of heart attacks is not a thankful task. It is not known how many husbands died in the families, maybe they would have lived for themselves, the men with the young and beautiful would not grieve ... but they did not have time to leave. Situations are different.
Young wives are like a medicine in the house)) They give birth to cats for a therapeutic effect)))) Heart rhythms are restored at a time ... and not only rhythms))))
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answered 10 years ago
.We broke up ... Well, all the time I thought about how to return him, but no methods helped. Every time I saw him on the street with different girls, it was very painful and not pleasant for me ... All three weeks I didn’t want to with whom to talk, every day I looked at his photo, remembered the best moments, and just cried. And in the fourth week I realized that there was nothing to return, and decided to commit suicide, only thanks to my sister I survived. My relatives talked to him, my friends and sister, to which he silently left. And my friend advised me to consult a psychologist, how much nerves and money I spent with him ... I really regretted that I went to the doctor. And I decided to take extreme measures, because to lose I already had nothing, but I tried all the methods. I turned to the sorcerer, to the magician Alexander, he promised that my beloved would return to me soon, and literally two weeks later he came to me with flowers to ask for forgiveness. After this incident, I began to believe in a miracle, not who could not believe that everything would be fine with him. in four months we got married, and now our baby is growing. I have become the happiest girl in the world! his mail address: [email protected] I wish you happiness and success in your personal life!
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answered 9 years ago
The standard text for advertising the so-called "fortune tellers", "sorcerers", "magicians" ... If I were the site administrator, I would delete such an "answer". But it's up to the sysadmin.
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answered 9 years ago
travelsita, straight to the point! How do people go about this?
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answered 9 years ago
I also lost interest in life, it is gone. I am pregnant soon to give birth and I have a daughter she is 6 years old. I met the father of the child at work, it seemed like there was love when I tore off the fact that I have an apartment. I don't know why I did it???? After all, lying is worse than betrayal. But be that as it may, there was a relationship with him, and when he found out that there was no apartment, he left me and his parents turned around. Now they don't need me and the baby. And it's not the child's fault. My soul is crying for a sob, I don’t want to live. Where do I need a child, I already have a daughter who needs to think on her feet. It's too late to have an abortion. In the children's house to wait, inhumanely it remains one to die with the child. My mother will raise my daughter, I know better than me. I am superfluous in this life. But I'm still a little coward, it's scary to take such a step. But I will find the courage in myself and leave, I can cross this line.
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answered 7 years ago
You can leave of course, your right.
But you have no right to take the life of your daughter.
Remember this. If you do this, you will go straight to hell.
But you have no right to take the life of your daughter.
Remember this. If you do this, you will go straight to hell.
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